“Consecration in marriage is not simply about receiving our entrance card to the Celestial Kingdom. It’s also about becoming qualified for the life we will presumably be living there. “
-H. Wallace Goddard
Just like the natural man is an enemy to God, “the natural spouse is an enemy to marriage”1. In Mosiah 3:19, it talks about how we can let go of the natural man and come unto God. The biggest thing that sticks out to me in that scripture is that we must be submissive and become like a little child. This applies to our lives but can apply more specifically to our marriages. Becoming submissive in our marriage leads us to living the Law of Consecration. President Benson taught that
“We covenant to live the law of consecration. This law is that we consecrate our time, talents, strength, property, and money for the up-building of the kingdom of God on this earth and the establishment of Zion.”
How can we apply that statement to our own marriages? Let’s change the wording just a little bit.
We covenant to live the law of consecration. This law is that we consecrate our time, talents, strength, property, and money for the up-building of Celestial marriages.
As we look at this statement in regard to marriage, we are able to see just how important marriage is. Marriage between a man and a woman is central to the plan of God. This is a serious commitment that we make as we covenant with the Lord and our spouse for eternity.
Brother Goddard stated in his book Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage, “It took decades for me to realize the significance of the covenant that I made with God and Nancy. On that January day more than 30 years ago, I promised God that I would always look for the good in Nancy. I promised that my attitude would always be redemptive-that no sacrifice would be too great. I promised God that I would be His partner in protecting, blessing, comforting, and saving Nancy’s precious soul. After all, there is nothing in God’s work I will ever do that will be more important than blessing my covenant partner. “ (Goddard 2009)
I love his words so much. It really made me think about the commitment that I made with God and Jose. I am here to be his biggest cheerleader. I am here to support and love my husband. Now, that doesn’t mean that I am to be a doormat, while he lives his wildest dreams. We are a team. We must help each other in this game of life. When I was praying to know if Jose was the one that I was to be with for eternity, I received the answer loud and clear: “It is your choice”. I am often reminded of the saying “Choose your love and love your choice”. I know that while it was my choice, God definitely led me to meet Jose. I have no doubt about that. I was reminded of that once again while reading this statement from Brother Goddard “Are you willing to exercise full-fledged faith in God-faith that He led you to this relationship and will bless and refine you in it?”
To apply consecration in our own marriages, I extend a challenge given by Brother Goddard to you. I will also be doing this experiment. For 30 days are you willing to show nothing but kindness and appreciation to your partner? Are you willing to set aside complaints and disappointments and see the good intentions and best efforts in your partner? Let’s try this together and see how living this way can change our marriages for the better.